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Saturday, April 05, 2014

Everything in its Season




Ecclesiastes 3:1
For everything there is a season and a time for every matter under heaven.

This is one of my favorite chapters of scripture. As I move through life, I have learned more and more that there are seasons for things. Everything we traverse is part of a season and as sure as winter changes to spring, so do seasons of life. Whether it be in life, death, sickness, growth, laughter, quietness, or passionate pursuit, the season will change. There are seasons in learning as well, and we must not force children into a season where they are not. In fact, we cannot force them. Trying to do so only frustrates, and I know this from painful experience with my own kids. 

Right now I find myself in a season that has me pondering our purposes. In the outside world I hear a cacophony of noise about education--Who is best in the world?  How do we test? Should we standardize? Guess what--you don't have a choice in the matter! It's happening! What about college? Should everyone go? Do you have to go to be marketable? What does that mean, anyway???

Much of education seems to be tied to the sense that inner peace is somehow connected to the inevitable job at the end of the educational tunnel, and if you can't get a job, then all is lost. Check all the boxes, and at the end you can be churned out into the marketplace to satisfy someone else's whims and answer to their demands so you can take home a lousy paycheck and buy some Ikea furniture.

Much of this external cacophony can put pressure on parents who homeschool, and especially those who choose a different path than what is typically prescribed by school systems. Classical educators and unschoolers and eclectic Charlotte Mason types, or any other "type" of home schooler that there is cannot be a stranger to the unnerving sense that overcomes from time to time that says, "You're kids are freaks and will never be able to support themselves. What on earth are you doing to them?" 

Ah, but then there is this moment...

I was sweating and fretting because I wasn't having my son do enough writing, though I wasn't entirely sure what "enough" meant. I was trying to cram him through a curriculum that he hated, and when I considered what I would be feeling were I to do the curriculum, I would hate writing too. I had to evaluate what my objective for him in writing actually is. In fact, my objective is for him to be an effective communicator. So I backed off and decided to watch and wait, and yes--I even prayed about this. Then this happened...

After a particularly lively conversation about The Wanderings of Odysseus with our Tapestry of Grace Dialectic co-op kids, one of them piped up with, "Could we write a paper that compares the gods and heroes?" 

Me: Stare. Blink. "Uhhhhhm...Yes. Yes you can. I think that is a great idea." And so began our journey of writing applicable, difficult academic papers. All the kids agreed that this was something they wanted to take on, something that they want to learn how to do, and four papers later (in two months' time) have turned out some tremendous work. They have tackled the very difficult comparison / contrast essay twice (though normally I would never start there!), a biographical essay, and the art of effective summary. They have not balked, complained or winced when given difficult critiques, but have embraced them and applied what they learned to the next paper. They have asked to receive grades, and I have given them with the understanding that I will be honest in the assessment, to which they all nodded and said that they wanted it, even if it wasn't a "good" grade. 

None of these kids were being forced to write above or outside of their particular skill or age level up to this point. All of them have been allowed to develop at their pace and in their strengths. Now that they are ages 10-13 and very much in that dialectic stage where they want to interact with information on a deeper level, they have no qualms about asking how to do it. Straight up. Honest. Just like kids, but this time more like young men and women who truly want to know...

For everything there is a season.

It showed me once again, that I really don't need to worry. I have asked for wisdom about how to do this, and watching and waiting for my children's cues for readiness has proven the best course more than once! Each of these children has a season, and we cannot create it for them. We can only model, model, model what Godly, wise, healthy living is, and provide the guidance for them along the way. It is not my job to make my children. It is my job to guide them. When they are ready, I must be prepared to meet them on the path and show them the way, even when the season changes unexpectedly, brings storms and turmoil, and when there seems to be a drought. Watch and wait. Listen the the voice of the Lord who has placed me here for this very purpose. Be faithful. diligent. prayerful. loving. kind. compassionate. merciful. wise...in every season.

2 comments:

  1. I found your blog through a Google search on reviews of CC. I have a daughter who will be 5 this summer. I am trying to decide whether or not to do CC in the fall. This is the first I have heard of TOG. I am not yet "sold" on CC. I am skeptical. We are a military family and meeting with friends now and then seems good. If I do decide to do CC it would mostly be for the social aspect. I am just having a hard time committing for that sole purpose. I would love to hear any advise you would give to a new-bee hs mom, (that has taught public school before). I love the thematic approach to learning all subjects and tying them together, and I desire to use a Waldorf style education with my own children. I just have a hesitancy that I don't quite understand with CC. What do you think of starting out with TOG even if I am all alone (no group) for now?

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    1. Thanks for stopping by. It's hard to give "advice" when all of this is such a personal choice. I can only say what worked for us and also what I would do in hindsight. Truthfully, CC launched us into homeschooling, but I quickly learned that it wasn't our style. I met wonderful people who are now my TOG partners for our older students, so I can't say that it didn't pay off. But that was my journey, and I believe fully that the Lord's hand was in it all to bring us to the point we are now, so I don't have any regrets. However, CC is not my style. I like a much more living books, hang out and discuss at length, "let's land on that," or take two weeks to make some Spartan armor approach. These have been good years. For my younger daughter, I like Story of the World. Along with some of the TOG literature selections it has been plenty for her (and SOTW certainly has excellent additional reading suggestions.) I adore Story of the World as a thematic spine for the lower grammar years, and I adore TOG for the upper grammar-rhetoric years. If I were starting all over, that is exactly what I would do...again...minus CC. TOG is a huge investment to make for one lower-grammar child, so I would use Story of the World. Just my experience, but again, it is such a personal choice.

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