Most of my favorite people are introverts. My husband, my sister, my daughter, my best friend, so naturally this graphic caught my attention. However my reaction to it did not match all the buzz about it as it went viral over facebook today.
I saw this today and as I read it I thought, "Well, yes. It's generally understood to be 'GOOD MANNERS.'" Basically every single one of those 12 items boils down to fundamental good manners and common sense, or stated as simply as the Golden Rule. I can't think of one extravert who wouldn't agree that it would be preferable to be treated in this way, let alone an introvert, so why don't we just call this poster "How to Care for People in General."
So, I'm going to write the extravert's version of this, assuming that they have different needs than introverts, as the graphic would indicate.
How to Care for Extraverts
- Remove all doors and window coverings. Respect their need for public displays of themselves at all time.
- Regularly humiliate them in public by poking fun at their weaknesses and making them a general laughing stock. They thrive on it.
- Shove them into any situation with no prior advance notice and expect them to fit in. They love that feeling of disorientation and uncertainty.
- Demand instant answers from them. They think best on their feet.
- Talk at the same time when they are saying something. They love the challenge of talking over you.
- Give them no notice of changes that may affect them. They love spontaneity.
- When they are immersed in a task, stop them abruptly. Again, they love spontaneity. Their minds are uniquely equipped to make sudden changes.
- Publicly reprimand them when they are wrong.
- Teach them new skills in a setting where people are sure to see them floundering. They love that feeling of helping others to know that they struggle too.
- Make sure they have many friends who share few or none of their interests. They live by the philosophy of "The more the merrier!"
- Expect them to make lots of friends. Question them as to what is wrong when they are not surrounded by people.
- Respect their extraversion and don't expect them to be an introvert.
(The biggest aha I have had is living with a man under the same roof. There is nothing that will make a person learn how to be nice to another person faster than marriage. Who needs Myers-Briggs?)
I won't suppose to be an expert here, because I have not done all kinds of research, nor have I written a book. But my point is that this is not a black-and-white thing. People need to be treated with respect and kindness, and if that is done, then it doesn't matter if you are "I" or "E"--Ultimately, there is great value in being yourself and not worrying about what everyone else thinks or who is caring for you. Just be.